Read this book: “When Someone You Love is Kinky” by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt

This is a fabulous read. It is informative, fun and relatable. Easton and Liszt’s book is meant as a resource for anyone trying to understand kink as it relates to an important person in their life. It is a description of how, what and (perhaps most importantly) why some people engage in kinky sex. The authors begin with a bit of background on research, terminology, law, school curriculum and the resultant preconceptions that this topic such a big deal. Once the building blocks are established, you are taken on a ride through the land of kink. Interspersed throughout the book are “letters you wouldn’t dare send” from kinkyfolk to their loved ones. These letters, in their raw honesty, allow the reader to peek inside the head of a kinky person and the effect is quite broadening. The authors also greatly emphasize the importance of open and effective communication and give suggestions to the reader on how one might be able to explore their own kinkiness with their partner. The book ends with a glossary and resource guide, the likes of which one could hardly find elsewhere.
Sex is sometimes filled with things that are dark and scary for a lot of people. This book is uplifting, broadening and expanding and it will leave you with a lot of curiosity and intrigue about a new world of wonderful things.

Here is a link to Easton’s site: http://www.dossieeaston.com/index.html

Neurofeedback

Neurofeedback is a fabulous method for treating a myriad of ailments, including depression, anxiety, ADD/ ADHD and insomnia. Using sensors attached to the scalp, brain waves are monitored and information is given back via auditory, visual and kinesthetic channels, which increase when brain activity falls within a designated range. Essentially, you are rewarded for the moments (however fleeting) when you are the most calm. As a result, these moments grow longer and deeper, quickly bringing a sense of wellbeing.

This method is based on principles of neuroplasticity, which refers to the brain’s susceptibility to physiological changes of the nervous system. Changes to the nervous system are the result of many factors: stress, changes in behavior, environment, physical habits, etc. Neurofeedback can leave you feeling as though years of these stressors have been stripped away, because it is gently repatterning your brain to operate from a calmer, more relaxed place.